Friends fondly remember Norma Gabriel, killed in crosswalk
Norma Kathleen "Kitty" Gabriel is fondly remembered by all who knew the strong and witty woman from Sellwood; despite a disability that would have made many people homebound, she regularly made trips on TriMet to her favorite exercise facility in Milwaukie.
Gabriel, 83, died May 10 at Oregon Health & Science University Hospital from injuries she suffered being hit by a FedEx van turning into the Milwaukie Transit Center. The widow and mother of two was in the crosswalk on her way to catch a bus home on April 26 when she received the fatal injuries.
Despite suffering from progressively crippling scoliosis, Gabriel was a hero to many throughout Milwaukie and Sellwood-Moreland for the high level of activity and independence that she maintained through her mastery of the TriMet public-transit system. Although bent over by her increasingly curved spine, Gabriel managed to carry her own backpack of necessities using a walker to get to bus stops.
"She got around in a heroic way," said Pete Walker, who lives near the Gabriel household in Sellwood. "She was quite the character, and it was just tragic what happened to her."
According to several interviews with her friends, Gabriel was never heard complaining about her physical condition. She was known for her a wonderful sense of humor, more wit than anything else — someone who makes light of the travails of life.
"I finally had to get out; I couldn't stand my own company," Gabriel said after the especially frightful snow storms that blanketed the region in January.
Her jokes — and her loud cackling laughter that followed — were a treat for fellow church members, TriMet passengers and members of Nelson's Nautilus Plus Milwaukie. Gabriel always prided herself on being well dressed for her 9:30 a.m. classes on Mondays. For every workout, she wore capri pants and fuzzy socks, matching in pinks, blue or purple. Steve Baer, a fellow member of Nelson's Nautilus, acted as the "judge" of Gabriel's matching workout outfits. Water aerobics teacher Tonja Rayley taught Gabriel in the classes themselves, which generally have 10 to 16 participants.
Another member of Nelson's Nautilus looked forward to every Monday when Gabriel would tell him to "have a terrible day." He said that he could count on having a good day as long as Gabriel told him to have an awful day.
Nelson's Nautilus member Carolyn Tomei said she and many others would not have found out about Gabriel's death if it weren't for a flyer posted at the exercise club. Nelson's Nautilus Plus Milwaukie manager Angie Reynolds attended the celebration of life for Gabriel and copied and posted one of the handouts for funeral attendees.
"Norma really made an impact around here to a lot of people," Reynolds said. "She was really got around the community in a positive way, and it's so sad to not have her around."
Gabriel loved tending her garden, particularly the hybrid roses grafted by her deceased father, John. She also enjoyed crossword puzzles, Scrabble, card games and clipping coupons. She frequently donated food or toiletries to those she deemed less fortunate.
Gabriel regularly volunteered at St. Agatha's Catholic Church in Sellwood, where she served as a greeter at services. Active in the St. Agatha's Altar Society, she worked often at the church's Adoration Chapel and Thrifty Cottage.
The pastor, Father Nathan Zodrow, knew her personally and gave a moving service at the May 20 celebration of life, according to Reynolds. A brief reception followed at Immanuel Lutheran Church.
Zodrow told a story in which he good-naturedly teased Gabriel for her height, assigning her to be in charge of the dandelions growing in front of the church. When she asked why she should be responsible for the weeds, he responded, "You're closer to the ground than the rest of us."
About a dozen members of Nelson's Nautilus continue to organize a luncheon in Gabriel's honor on the first Mondays of the month. Gabriel had originally organized the standing first-Monday engagements at various restaurants in the Milwaukie area.
Gabriel was born Dec. 29, 1933, in Huron, South Dakota, the third child of John Kott and Bertha May Ayres. When she was 8, her family moved to Portland.
After she graduated from Washington High School, she married Virley Thurman Gabriel, Jr, on Nov. 14, 1953, at the Ascension Catholic Church in Portland. Her husband died June 14, 1977, in Portland.
She is survived by: her son, Michael (wife, Debbie) Gabriel of Portland; her daughter Marilyn (husband, LeRoy) Gabriel Mills of McLean, Virginia, her grandchild Michelle Mills, several sisters-in-law, a brother in-law, and numerous nieces and nephews.
The family thanked the dedicated personnel in the OHSU intensive care unit for the great care they provided Gabriel in her final days.
In accordance with Gabriel's wishes, in lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the St. Agatha's Preservation Fund, 1430 S.E. Nehalem St., Portland OR 97202.